Do you see God in your neighbor?

I have a friend who had a stroke and all I can see is God on the cross. No broken bones but a broken body. It is not a pretty picture. I actually want to run away. Look at this from a safe distance. It is too depressing to watch close up. Today she was supposed to find certain numbers on a sheet of paper and cross them out. Something that would take a normal person seconds, takes forever - with coaxing and prodding!